HOW I FIGURE IT!

HOW I FIGURE IT!

---We know how it all works. I mean I think many of us figured it out. I wondered why I haven’t seen the schematic around. Maybe it isn’t as out there as I thought it was. 

---To me it begins with a solid foundation. If one was appreciated, valued, was taken seriously, and really listened to (not made to look foolish when he may naively ask a question someone thought to be mundane and revealed how much he didn’t know.) This can be a real problem and do much damage to a young mind just by someone indicating, ‘’boy, was that a stupid question.’’ His outlet for his curiosity could easily be stymied by some off-handed, mindless remark that succeeds only to thwart the child from asking future questions that help in his evolving a more definitive answer usually because someone wanted to show-off how SMART he, himself, is. There are REALLY NO dumb questions, as they say! Only comments to questions that are completely unnecessary.

---When a child develops properly and gets his emotional needs met along with a  good, solid foundation of food, clothing and shelter, he learns he is appreciated, valued and worthwhile. From all of this, he learns to be generous and freely share as he realizes life works better when we do this. We learn how to be a give and take player on the wheel that upgrades civilization as we go. This keeps improving where we find ourselves actually going from selfish to selfless as we age. We learn we don’t have to compete and compare. We feel very, very connected with ourselves, each other AND with life itself.

---Here is where we can make a good case for DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED. He who is deprived of his needs being met will most likely act depraved in some way. His negativity, DEPRAVITY, no matter to what degree can be traced, as a rule, to how DEPRIVED the person has experienced in his lifetime.

---The fundamentals of life can be as easy as getting one’s needs met and can set a person on a course of fun and enjoyment. One should identify what his real needs are and set a plan in motion to get them met. The difference between someone living his life getting his needs met and someone who tries to live his life with his needs unmet...is like day and night. If one doesn’t get his fundamental needs met...then he usually spends the rest of his life and time trying to get those very same needs met. Doing the things that one enjoys doing so far outweighs doing things you don’t want to do. It can make or break a lifetime. Many people can attest to this as a fact because they, basically, are doing something they are NOT fond of doing. When one is doing what he likes doing, it is a night/day different thing compared to doing what you don’t like to do.

---When these fundamental needs are met we have a person with a good, solid self-image that can develop healthfully from there. When one veers from that course he starts catastrophizing and the negatives begin to oppose any natural growth. This is where the heartaches begin. This is where we will find life begins to unravel. Be Well!