---We may remember the famous line from the musical ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ – ‘’He Is DEPRAVED because He Is DEPRIVED!’’ I THINK these words are very true and have weighed heavily on our society for a longtime. And there seems NO LET UP IN SIGHT. It seems to only be getting worse. We can reverse it, but it is going to involve meeting the needs that are still are being deprived to this day.
---Through the work of Abraham Maslow and others we can see that there is a basic human need of being loved and supported. We know that every individual does better when he is appreciated and valued. Despite his/her ability. When these needs are in place and met, the individual usually returns this behavior with positive behavior of his own. He returns affection and security with security and affection.
---When people are deprived of their basic needs of being loved, appreciated and valued…they act in some negative anti-social way that resembles depravity. If your basic needs for love and appreciation are met you will tend to treat others warmly and well with a positive spirit. If you are deprived of these basic needs you are probably looking for an outlet for this negative energy.
---POSITIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE NOT DEPRIVED of These basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.
---NEGATIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE DEPRIVED of these basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.
THIS APPLIES TO YOU NO MATTER WHERE YOU MAY FALL IN THE HIERARCHY. BEING KIND IS A GOOD WAY TO BEGIN REVERSING IT!
---I think I found the trick to beat the turtle in the race. You have said it is NOT who crosses the finish line first, but the real winner is he/she who finds his/her own pace. I think if I go at a slower pace than the Rabbit and hence not tiring myself out while going faster than the Turtle to beat him/her! Eureka...I might win that race.
---My pace is somewhere between the rabbit and the turtle. In my younger days I did battle with those two many times. At times I must admit...the rabbit and turtle were unrecognizable. The rabbit could be a tiger and the turtle could be a rattler. My fear of my opponents could make the race and my pace a whole different animal. I didn't know where I was in the pace department. The good news is that I learned my lessons and NOW pick and choose better. I make more mature decisions. Things are less fear based and more in the realm of reality.
---I, finally, REDEFINED WINNING! I understand what is meant by, ''the winner is the one who finds his/her own pace.'' Be Well!'
RIVALRY: Sibling or Otherwise
---Many find themselves competing and
comparing themselves to siblings and/or someone else who seemingly outdoes them
at every turn. Him or her gets more notice for his abilities than you do. You
discover that there exists a resentment toward this other person that exposes a
jealousy you harbor toward him/her for the abilities he has.
---The real winning is NOT who
crosses the finish line first. It comes to whomever finds his own pace that
causes him/her to perform at his optimum.
---This calls into question the
difference between BEING the best OR DOING your best. If the main concern is
about being the best, you can see a more roller coaster ride is in store for
your life. If your life is about doing your best, you can see how much, more
consistent things will most likely be. Be Well.