IMPORTANT: MEETING REAL NEEDS - ACEs!

 DOWNGRADE THE LEVEL (AFTERMATH) OF THE STORM (TRAUMA) THAT SWEPT THROUGH YOUR CHILDHOOD!

---There exists a tool that helps folks understand why they feel as they do and why they act as they do. This tool consists of answering a set of questions that yields answers that allows trained individuals to predict what diseases they are heading toward based on the different traumas we may have had in our childhood.

What are the 9 ACES - adverse childhood experiences?

In the Minnesota BRFSS survey, respondents were asked if they had experienced any of the following nine types of ACEs: physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, mental illness of a household member, problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member, illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member.

---Some people have had such horrendous things happen to them. A child who experienced such depravity and negativity in their lives is compared to PTSD. It's like spending time in combat never knowing any peace always high-strung and anxious ready for the second shoe to drop at any moment. They can be easily triggered and transported to a time when they were actually in a situation where these anxieties were a reality.

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---Not everyone experienced this kind of negativity. It is realized that mostly everyone has had something or other that was traumatic in someway. We all have something we'd rather not have been through, but when we come out the other-side we realize that we learned a lot of valuable things in the process. It sort of makes the whole thing worthwhile. Discover what YOUR REAL NEEDS are and get them met!

---Acceptance plays a big part in this, but is more a goal of the process and nothing to worry about near the beginning. That is one of those things that we are never sure we've surpassed until that day arises when we realize we are NO LONGER stuck in that cycle.

---Did you ever wonder why some people do better than other people. Did you ever wonder why some folks seem to rise up against all odds and kind of ‘get it’ while others do not. Are you curious to find out what some people are seeing while others don’t seem to have a clue. They have been able to forgive and accept where at other times, seemed impossible. If we watch television at all, we don’t have to go far to be told that the only real limits set on us are the ones that we put there. There is really no one to blame but ourselves!?!? We are holding on to the pain instead of forgiving and allowing the acceptance to come in. Don't Fault Yourselves Because of This. You Might NOT Be Quite Ready...YET! Someday You Will...but, NOT YET! REMEMBER: That's The Goal...NOT The Reality as of YET!

---Are we being lied to for the umpteenth time. Are we being handed another bill of goods that won’t work? We have heard it all before. It just sounds like another bunch of bull. The answer is NO, to that!

---There are ways to escape or at least manage the traumas we experienced in our childhoods. It shows how the kinds of things that happened early in our lives are probably still doing a number on us years or even decades later. Why are we still victims all these years later. What happened happened...whatever that was. Are we still under that spell that fueled the ship many years ago OR are we ready to take a good look at that fuel and make changes to upgrade where necessary? Are we ready to use some of the new technologies to bring us from the dark ages into a light that more and more are seeing and experiencing daily...making REAL CHANGES that last and don’t seem to fade, along the way.

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''GET YOUR NEEDS MET - ABE MASLOW''

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''YOUR ONLY RIVAL IS STILL YOUR OWN POTENTIAL - ABE MASLOW'''

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HOW I FIGURE IT!

HOW I FIGURE IT!

---We know how it all works. I mean I think many of us figured it out. I wondered why I haven’t seen the schematic around. Maybe it isn’t as out there as I thought it was. 

---To me it begins with a solid foundation. If one was appreciated, valued, was taken seriously, and really listened to (not made to look foolish when he may naively ask a question someone thought to be mundane and revealed how much he didn’t know.) This can be a real problem and do much damage to a young mind just by someone indicating, ‘’boy, was that a stupid question.’’ His outlet for his curiosity could easily be stymied by some off-handed, mindless remark that succeeds only to thwart the child from asking future questions that help in his evolving a more definitive answer usually because someone wanted to show-off how SMART he, himself, is. There are REALLY NO dumb questions, as they say! Only comments to questions that are completely unnecessary.

---When a child develops properly and gets his emotional needs met along with a  good, solid foundation of food, clothing and shelter, he learns he is appreciated, valued and worthwhile. From all of this, he learns to be generous and freely share as he realizes life works better when we do this. We learn how to be a give and take player on the wheel that upgrades civilization as we go. This keeps improving where we find ourselves actually going from selfish to selfless as we age. We learn we don’t have to compete and compare. We feel very, very connected with ourselves, each other AND with life itself.

---Here is where we can make a good case for DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED. He who is deprived of his needs being met will most likely act depraved in some way. His negativity, DEPRAVITY, no matter to what degree can be traced, as a rule, to how DEPRIVED the person has experienced in his lifetime.

---The fundamentals of life can be as easy as getting one’s needs met and can set a person on a course of fun and enjoyment. One should identify what his real needs are and set a plan in motion to get them met. The difference between someone living his life getting his needs met and someone who tries to live his life with his needs unmet...is like day and night. If one doesn’t get his fundamental needs met...then he usually spends the rest of his life and time trying to get those very same needs met. Doing the things that one enjoys doing so far outweighs doing things you don’t want to do. It can make or break a lifetime. Many people can attest to this as a fact because they, basically, are doing something they are NOT fond of doing. When one is doing what he likes doing, it is a night/day different thing compared to doing what you don’t like to do.

---When these fundamental needs are met we have a person with a good, solid self-image that can develop healthfully from there. When one veers from that course he starts catastrophizing and the negatives begin to oppose any natural growth. This is where the heartaches begin. This is where we will find life begins to unravel. Be Well!

The PHOENIX FORTH TO FLY

The PHOENIX FORTH TO FLY

Don't Be Afraid To Make Mistakes

Don't Be Afraid To Follow Your Passion

Don't Be Afraid To Follow Your Grit

Don't Take Things Too Personally,
People Can Say The Nastiest Things

Though, Easier Said Than Done

Accept Yourself As You Are

Of Course, With So-Called Faults And All

You Have Nothing To Prove To Anyone

Fear Is The Great Inhibitor

Love Is The Great Unifier

Through - Trial & Error,

We Learn To Be Wise.

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A NEW LOOK AT HOPE!

FEELING HOPELESS

---Feeling hopeless is a very bad feeling to feel. It’s a very strange thing to have. Let us look at it this.

---Hope comes into being when we want our situation to improve. We usually hope for some change so our present situation is better than we are perceiving it to be. Hope is in the future as we wait for something to happen that will make our now more tolerable.

---If the now that we are experiencing is very bad AND we have no hope of it ever improving, we have to say that things are hopeless. The experience of the now space would be bad if there is something happening in our now that is unacceptable. These are the two choices that pop out to me - 1] accept the situation that we have found unacceptable up to now OR 2] make changes to the thing that has caused the situation to be unacceptable AND bring it into our realm of acceptability.

---If things are going well and our experience of NOW is all fine and dandy, than we have no need to hope. We can actually hope that nothing big happens that makes changes to our now situation. Things can be very contented and if nothing big happens for a time...then that is okay. We hope that nothing happens to upset the apple cart. But, if fear sets in and we begin opposing any change at all and, actually, begin fearing change itself...then it easily can tend toward a form of schizophrenia. If our now begins to suck and there is little hope that anything will change it, than we can say we feel we are becoming hopeless. 

---BUT…if we are sitting back feeling hopeless saying our now sucks and there is nothing that we can do to change that, that is NOT a true statement. We need to reset and eventually look again. Be creative. There are not a whole lot of places that nothing can happen. If we feel hopeless, than we can be sure that fear has a grip somewhere. (Maybe there is something you feel you must confront, but really don't want to.) Something can change the situation. There is a rigidity going on that is preventing the natural ebb and flow from being obvious to you. There REALLY are not a whole lot of hopeless situations where NO CHANGE is possible. We may have to learn to befriend a bit of unpleasantness. 

---Shakespeare said, ‘’Expectations are at the ’root’ of all heartache.'' He may have been correct. The outcome that you expect may be the very problem. Maybe, be more flexible + realistic. Maybe you want the outcome to be exactly as you want it to be and are just too controlling of the whole thing.

Here is a kind of silly, but poignant SONG by Paul Simon that may lighten things up for you.